Living with your significant other.. Good or Bad? what are your views?

So first off I know this post might be kind of sparatic so please bare with me to get my thoughts across. No I am not having any doubts of what  is happening just want some input for a first timer.

So in the next couple of weeks, I am going to be moving in with my boyfriend. I've had too many friends that say that they would let me move in and then it turned out they didn't want to. 

I guess that could be a stressor out moment, but I've kept a good head about it. 

But my worries is that with it being my first time moving in with my significant others a lot has come up in my mind, For example: Do you set rules or boundaries, do you break up responsibilities aka bills, chores, food, date nights, entertainment. etc.... 

Do you give yourself "me time" which can help out the relationship. 

What are some successful ideas that you could pass along to a couple who are just starting out taking that road? 

What makes it work besides communication and making date nights regularly during the month. 

Updating my blog but I will keep posting as much as I can during the week!

Hey lovelies,

 I can tell that I really havent been blogging that much, it's not that I have ran out of Idea's I am just brainstorming some post's up.. I'm starting to get the hang of this blogging world a little bit better. Granted I am not doing this for money or to get attention. I just wantto share my life the good, bad and maybe the plain ugly. Sometimes my posts will just be a bunch of pictures. or quotes that I've come across the way.  Or just quick updates or something I thought about during the day while at work. Granted I may not remember it in the end, but hey a girl can dream right?

So I know that my last post was 2 days ago and yes that wasn't a real picker upper kind of post. It made me realize how long ago even though it was year, that I lost someone who I knew as my best buddy even though I am a little bit older then her. But age is just a number. I hate it when everyone comments on oh he's too old for you, so 4 or more years is way to old? We live in a different time then our parents, and yes I understand that they taught us they way they were taught so on and so forth, but they have to realize that we as our generation grew up in different times. This isn't the 50's anymore. 

I really feel as though when I sit here at the library I can get a lot done, even if it's only for a while, but I am proud of myself because I actually did a lot of my planning for at least 6 blog posts  while listening to the racket of the house being worked on with new doors etc.... Yeah Moving brings out the worst in people.

Well lovelies I need to get back to my other blog posts, I will be following up very shortly with another post.

wow a year has flown by: but you are still in my heart

So A lot has been going on in my mind lately, I know that most of it just has to do with a lot of stress with trying to put up the house for sale, which now has been postponed yet again.

But that isn't something that I really want to talk about at this present time. 

So its been a year since my friend from high school has passed. My did that year fly, but she has been on my mind a lot lately I just want to say to her that I miss you amanda your presence and smile and the passion for music has been your constant companion. You were always there to help others and I was grateful to not know you personally but your whole family personally, you've touched my life in so many ways and I am truly grateful for it all. I know that you are in a better place and I know that we all miss you very much, but I know that you are not suffereing anymore and that is what truly is important, I know that dying at a very young age of 19 is very hard on everyone, because we all say that we are too young to die.. I can agree and disagree with that statement. I know that a heart defect took you from us too soon, and NO it's not your fault because you didn't know because you were very healthy. 

God has a way to bring something to us, even if we do think that sometimes that it isn't fair that it happened, but you have to bre grateful for being able to get up everyday and being able to say I love you to loved ones, even if you happened to be angry with them, because it could be the last time . 

So to end another short post my dear Amanda I miss you but you will always be in my heart. Love you girl, and always remember EYES WITH PRIDE

Love,

 Mary Kay

job hunting or should I put migraine city

I know that I shouldn't be complaining about my job and that I should be very grateful that I even have a job, because I know many people out there don't even have one. But I know that I need a change in scenery. I am starting to become the person who doesn't want to go into work. Doesnt mind getting cut every once in a while. Works her butt off literally and doesn't get treated with the respect of others. Been there for 6 years and get skipped over promotions , for a person who only just started a year ago. I have to ask myself what am I doing wrong? should I be slacking off, constatnly on my phone, should I treat customers poorly, should I not say anything at all... That has been going on through my mind lately. Well within the last year or so. But I've been applying for jobs like crazy like it's going out of style.

I've had a couple interviews but the last one I had just ticks me off, it's like ok if it's in your policy to have them only be in the state, (if your looking out of state) make sure you see their policies before you have the interview. Otherwise they call you can start the interview process and then say oh you don't live in the state, NO but willing to move. Well technically we can't use you. OK IT WAS ON MY RESUME!!!! that I wasn't in the state. How do you miss that? OI I don't get it. 

So now I am just trying to find another part time job, because I'm tired of trying to find full time jobs, and the agony of always waiting around, is not something I want to do. Yes you can tell that I have very little patience for jobs, but other than that what else do I have to do.

I had a job for a lesson company, and I was so mad yesterday because they dropped me because I had to decline a student because my mom didn't tell me that she sold the piano so I basically lost my lesson job, THANKS MOM For screwing that up for me.

I'm sorry this post is just a ranting post. I am sorry if you gotten this far I thank you for making it this far. But I am lost in what else I can do. I've Been updating my resume like every week I either add something drop something. It depends on what it is . I work hard for every day, but I have a feeling that anytime something good happens I have to step three steps back. Its like what do you want from me, can't I deserve some good news? please. I am exhausted of constant bad news. 

 Love, 

Mary Kay Bozec 

updates and concerns on where things are Most good and just plain curious.

I've been in the process of revamping my blog for a while now, and No it's not to get more traffic to my blog, I just see it as another thing to do in my spare time to relax. I know that I spend some time on my post lately, rather then have it be a short sweet and to the point blog post. I know that I can ramble on for what seems like forever, trust me I see that as I post them, yet I should try to narrow it down to a simple post or kind of try to stay on track. 

Lately I've been so stressed and just wishing I could just have a break for a couple days, I had told my mom that I just needed a break. I know that she needs one too. As Many of you may or may not know, I don't know if I even mentioned this on my blog yet. After some time away from the dating world I came back into it not expecting much, because Lately I've been having so much baggage with taking care of mom, selling my childhood home you can see the picture come into focus right? 

Well I met this guy Chris on a dating website, I understand that it's really nerve racking to online date, but I'm the type of person who just didn't want to do the whole bar scene. Plus I don't drink a lot I rarely saw the point to get tipsy or flat out drunk, ok maybe when I was 21 yeah I saw the point then. I am 26 years now and still think drinking is way to expensive, sure at a party maybe that ok, or having a beer or wine after a bad day ,we all have those days. Sorry I am getting side tracked, anyways so I met up with him at a park that was met in the middle between our two places. Mind you this was back in May. Yes I know I've kept it on the Down Low for almost 3 months. Granted I might of mentioned it a couple of times. But we have been just taking the time to get to know each other not really make a huge deal about it with automatically being in a relationship, that would be a desperate thing. So I've learned a lot in these last 3 months that shows why a sweetheart chris is. Well first off We are born in the same month a day apart Chris January 3rd I'm January 4th , granted we are a year apart. I thought that was kind of cool experience I've never dated anyone with the same birthday month. Another reason why he's such a sweetheart is the one day I've been just in a terrible mood  mentally breaking down and just couldn't stop crying, I am the type of person who will just hide it until in a private spot like my room to be able to just let the tears fall, without the constant harping of are you ok? Well that wasn't the case all he did was just bring me into his arms and hugged me until I stopped we sat down on the couch, and told me hey its going to be ok I've got you don't worry I am not letting go.  I knew when all this has been happening, if he could see me at my worst possible point and at my absolute best and not judge I know that I found a keeper.

With all the talk about moving and making a new plan to life it's been a hard one to follow. I know that there are trials and errors to being able to find out what your gonna do. I know that all my friends are up here and my boyfriend is up here (Yes we made it official a couple of weeks ago). Most of my family is up here not all within the state of IL ,but close  Wi and Washington. Anyways My mom wants to move to Fl and I do not blame her at all for wanting to get out of these terrible winters that we have. If it's for her health by all means go to a place where it would be possible to have an easier life and not have to worry about falling etc.. the only issue that I am having with all of this and yes I still worry about this to this day is her diabetes. knock on wood I know that she tries to keep her sugar up and tries to remember to eat, but sometimes It's the fact that my sister and I would always have to remind her to eat somedays, plus when we work long hours, I'm rarely home to catch her sugar if it goes super low. And that is something that I am terribly worried about when she moves to FL because No one is really going to be taking care of her. like my sister and I. Which brings me to my next dilemma. 

Do I stay where I know everybody and just spend mounds of money taking airplanes from FL to IL or vice versa to IL to FL.

 Do I go with my mom that way she has someone else there as an extra eye but not suffocate or hover I guess that should be the word for it. 

or do I stay up in IL try to find someone to move in with which has been a nightmare so far ,because the only other people that I know really well have backed out. ( another post about this later). I know that Chris said he would be willing to open up his home to me , if I needed it. Which I already know what you guys are thinking IT's too soon that's what everyones mind , including the two of us. Yes Communication is the key in any relationship if you want it to work out. We've tried at least one sleepover at his house , I know that it doesn't really give you a suspect of what life could be like everyday. i know that we will have arguments, and wanting or needing space. But what I was thinking about as I laid their that night was ok  split the bills on top of what I need to do for bills. grocery shopping. etc.... thats what we have to think about. I mean he owns his town home right now so it's just a mortgage payment. plus between the two of us we have 3 cars. I have my own and he has a leisure car and a work only car. So it all seems like a mess right now hehe I can only laugh about that. 

well thats all for now I hope you all enjoy your weekend I have to get ready for an overnight tonight

Love, Mary Kay 

Stuck in a time of Jane Austen and thriving through her writings

I"ve been staring at this blank page for about 10 minutes... I had so much to write and yet I have no idea where to start... I sit here and I can talk about a million things well not a million maybe a few. I can talk about my life , or relationship, work, makeup because lately I've been wearing a lot more, but still keeping it really natural, and or what to wear on a date, whether it be a nice pair of jeans and a nice shirt or what ever you feel is comfortable.

Lately I've been watching a lot of movies that have to do with Jane Austenr and her books. To imagine a life like one Elizabeth Bennett, or Jane Eyre. Now I still havent read Pride and Predijuice or Jane Eyre, but I can't wait to start.  I love literature and books, the language and settings. The romance between Darcy and Elizabeth , and Jane an Mr. Rochester. The turnmoil and rage that I would of possed if I was apart of that era, the romance between words .

 pure enjoyment through words. I can just drool now. lol Just kidding. 

 but I will drool over this library, just give me a really big comfy chair, a bathroom, a bed , and good light, and someone bring me food I would love you forever. 

As for my life, has been non exisistent , and I guess that can be a good thing or a bad thing. I go to work everyday I come home to read  books, pack what little I have left in our home. Getting ready to start showing the house, and pick up our lives that we've lived for so long .  It's sort of heartberaking to know that the house you've lived in for 25 years is going to be gone within the next couple months. The familiarity of ones house and the familiarity that is comfortable, what would change do to a person, could it be a good change or a bad change one that will have to get used too. I know that I can count on my hand for my friends that have stuck by me through this dreary time of which has buggered me down with a bunch of stress and unholy tearing up.

I've been applying for so many jobs and lately I can't even remeber what ones. I know that Is probably a horrible thing to say. But I've applied for Illinois, Kentucky, Ohio, Michigian and now looking for Wisconisin. Wish me luck, maybe a new start somewhere else would be a good thing, but then lonley at the same time because I wouldn't know anyone. 

We will see.